The Mystical Ladder, for Husbands

Note: this is secret mystical knowledge, for men alone.  Let the deacons now show the women out and let the doors be shut.

Stage 1, the New Convert: If  I talk to her about it, I can understand why she is crying and help her understand why she doesn’t need to cry.

Stage 2, the Cloud of Unknowing:  It is not possible to understand why she is crying.  I just have to go hide.

Stage 3, the Apophatic Union: She does not actually understand why she is crying, she is not interested in understanding it, and therefore I do not need to understand it.  One slight movement toward her, in almost any area of her life, will evaporate the tears.  It was easier than I ever imagined.