God’s job and the parent’s job are different: same goal but opposite processes:
Only God has direct access to the heart, the parents do not. It is not the earthly father’s job to make his son feel guilt over sin or to sanctify him or to directly effect any spiritual state in him.
Only the parents have direct access to the body, God does not (in this age…at Judgement this changes).
Parents: work from the body inward, not the other way around.
Moms: often get caught up and overwhelmed by trying to correct interior issues and exterior issues all at once. Focus on the body.